jillybean, on 2011-November-15, 11:58, said:
I only ask if I need to know, I now tend to look at their CC rather than ask. Call me odd but I did not do this to start with as some players seem to be annoyed when their CC is picked up and scrutinized and I felt as if I was being rude doing so.
I would
never have any qualms about looking (at an appropriate time) at opponent's system card. IMO, anyone who calls himself a bridge player who gets annoyed when someone looks at their card does not deserve the name. "Idiot" would be more appropriate.
Today, (last board of the day, in fact), partner opened a club, RHO passed, and I jumped to 2NT. Partner alerted. LHO asked what it meant. Partner allowed she didn't know, but "it's on the card". LHO picked up the card, looking at the front. Partner said "it's on the back" (where competitive agreements are located). Much confusion and discussion between partner, LHO, and RHO(!) ensued. Finally, having received enough UI to sink the Bismarck, I suggested that LHO call the TD and ask him to have partner leave the table so I could explain it. LHO called the TD. No response (it was noisy, one of the TDs was entering scores, the other was cleaning up the kitchen). We called again. RHO left the table to go get him. Partner left the table on her own. The TD showed up. I explained the bid (balanced, 11-12 HCP). Partner and RHO sat down. LHO passed. Partner bid 3
♣, passed to me. I had 2 LAs, pass and 3NT. I passed. Partner made 4, and would have made 3NT. <shrug>
I kept hoping partner would just shut up once it became clear she was confused, but she wasn't having any of that.
After the hand she looked at the system card and said "Oh. That only applies after a double". (We play flip-flop after a TO double, so 2NT would be weak with clubs).