y66, on 2015-September-23, 12:25, said:
Agree with the importance of treating voters with respect. I work on this. Your posts have been a positive influence. But I still have lapses.
I have really gotten into the question of why people of the sort I grew up with now vote R. And I am coming to some (possible) answers.
Are they racists? Not really. We might all be some sort of racist. But to say that is to obliterate useful meanings of the word. Some folks are rabid, the people I knew were not. My father disapproved of the May Britt marriage to Sammy Davis Jr, but then the parents of a Jewish friend declared him dead when he married a shiksa. The first girl I dated was Jewish, or at least reflecting on it as an adult I think she probably was. As a 14 year old we didn't care. For reasons that I never understood, my mother decided that the next girl I dated was black. She never met her, she just decided that she was black. Maybe her name sounded black. By then I was 15, I had my car, I paid my own way, so nothing more was said.
Anyway, it depends on what the word "racist" means, but if my parents and their friends were racists, the word applies to a very large number of people.
Back to my friend John for a moment. He grew up in a small town in Minnesota, near an Indian Reservation. Late in his life (he died a few years back) someone whom he knew from the reservation contacted him to renew their friendship, to his delight. He was a racist? No, it seems his friend did not think so either. At his funeral, his best friend, a self-described "Jew from the tough streets of NY", described John as the best man he ever knew. No one will say that at my funeral.
Time out: Of course we are hearing old Yogi Berra things but this one was new to me: His wife once asked him where he would like to be buried when he died: "I don't know, surprise me."
We need to take it easy on this name calling. People are complicated and they live out their cultural imperatives in various ways.
Mostly I am fairly oblivious to race, religion, sexual orientation etc. Some years back I was ordering coffee in a hotel lobby and started chatting with the guy. Becky came and got me and explained the guy was hitting on me. I thought it was just a friendly chat, but upon reflection she may have been right. The conversation did have some weird features. Becky notices such things, I don't. It's not a difference in attitude toward gays, it's a difference in obliviousness.
But I am still pretty certain that that second girlfriend I mentioned was white. Pretty sure.