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A woman I know is the mistress of a married man, and I heard him described as "her boyfriend". This seemed to me a poor description of one who keeps a mistress, but I could not think of a better term.
Is there an actual term used in this sense?
What is the correct term? Mistress is the easy part.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 14:29
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Posted 2012-October-12, 14:36
French?
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Posted 2012-October-12, 14:39
Non.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 15:02
Somebody once asked Dear Abby or some such how to introduce her live in boyfriend of many years at a cousins wedding and she answered, "How about my reason for living".
Pretty weird here but who am I to judge. How about the guy that pays my rent? Sugar Daddy? I can't think of anything discreet that admits the actual situation and why would you do THAT.
Pretty weird here but who am I to judge. How about the guy that pays my rent? Sugar Daddy? I can't think of anything discreet that admits the actual situation and why would you do THAT.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 15:06
Sugar Daddy
seriously that is what we called them in Chicago, several girls in the office had them.
seriously that is what we called them in Chicago, several girls in the office had them.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 15:12
Adulterer!
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Posted 2012-October-12, 15:18
Although "sugar daddy" might be the most accurately descriptive term, you'd never introduce someone that way. She'd introduce him as her lover, which is accurate but less specific.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 15:20
Pretty sure the man being married isn't a requirement for being a sugar daddy. Older, likely, showering gifts upon the woman, certainly, married optional.
Also, as the OP was presented, for all we know the woman is the richer one showering the gifts.
Also, as the OP was presented, for all we know the woman is the richer one showering the gifts.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 15:23
how about "my next ex-husband?"
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Posted 2012-October-12, 15:43
Winstonm, on 2012-October-12, 14:29, said:
A woman I know is the mistress of a married man, and I heard him described as "her boyfriend". This seemed to me a poor description of one who keeps a mistress, but I could not think of a better term.
Is there an actual term used in this sense?
Is there an actual term used in this sense?
I'm pretty sure the polite term is "friend".
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Posted 2012-October-12, 15:48
I believe that at one time people did not feel the need to be upfront about such matters, but if candor is necessary, perhaps lover is best. If total accuracy is, for some reason, desired then I guess "my married lover" would work. But how about, "This is Steve"?
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Posted 2012-October-12, 16:15
My niece / uncle.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 16:28
How about "the cheating bastard that's seeing me on the side"?
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Posted 2012-October-12, 16:33
CSGibson, on 2012-October-12, 16:28, said:
How about "the cheating bastard that's seeing me on the side"?
Maybe they have an understanding? Live and let live, bro!
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Posted 2012-October-12, 16:48
Winstonm, on 2012-October-12, 14:29, said:
Is there an actual term used in this sense?
I agree with others that the word is usually "lover" and that one does not actually introduce said person as such.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 17:40
To clarify the situation, he is rich, older, and claims his wife suffers from Alzheimer's, although she is known to make out-of-town car trips by herself (which is suspiciously unAlzheimer-like.)
I was actually thinking inglorious bastard might be most accurate.
I was actually thinking inglorious bastard might be most accurate.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 17:43
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But how about, "This is Steve"?
That will be pretty weird because his name is Ron.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 17:47
How un french all of these posta are
so much for not being french
so much for not being french
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Posted 2012-October-12, 20:52
Thai and Lao have a great word here - "Gik". Basically it means f*** buddy.
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Posted 2012-October-12, 21:39
How about "my man"?