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I'll make a few observations:

1) I live in central NJ, in New Brunswick (home of Rutgers U), and work in Princeton (home of Princeton U). This region of the country (NY/NJ/Phil) should be like bridge Mecca, and in many senses it is. And I live and work in the towns of the best universities in the state. Academics and students abound. And, there are a huge number of games in my area. The catch? They are all during the day.

Let's say 5pm on a Tuesday rolls around and I am able to leave work (and find a partner). I work 30 minutes south of where I live. I have to drive over an hour and a half (and beg them over the phone to sign me up) in horrible rush hour traffic to get to a game north of where I live that starts at 6:30 (for a 1 hour drive home), or an hour south of work for a 7:00 game in the other direction for an hour and 15 minute drive home.

Evening games within a 30 minute drive of either work or home? There is only 1, and it's on Wednesday.

2) Cell phones were commented on earlier. I have no problem with the no phones (or at least phones off) in NABC+ events rule, but I have a huge problem with the fees for holding your phone at the site. In Philadelphia, it was $2 for one phone, $3 for 2, and $5 for 3. And this was for one session.

First of all, why does the marginal cost increase for the 3rd phone? I'm already mad I have to pay you at all, and now you're infuriating me with a nonsensical pricing scheme.

Second of all, we had a foursome with 4 phones that all fit in one ziploc, and the guy told us that we could keep them all together and "well, 2, 3, 5, ..., just charge them 8." I told him we'd go ahead and just pay for 2 and 2. I don't see why he thought that the pricing was Fibonacci (I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. I didn't ask what he'd charge me for 5 phones...), but maybe he was Rain Man or something.

Third, half* the field just turns their phones off and keeps them in their pockets/purses/etc anyway. This is anecdotal ("dude whatever just put it in your pocket but turn it off", "that's what cargo pants are for", ...) but supported by the number of cell phone penalties given out even to top pros of late. They kept it in their pocket but forgot to turn it off.
* half is my hyperbolic way of saying "much of"

Fourth, can't you just penalize the offenders heavily? That's effectively what's happening anyway (see (3)), except the honest people have to pay money.

Fifth, seriously, I already paid you for the morning session, and now you're charging me again for the evening session? Same ticket, same bag, is it really a big deal?

Sixth, and possibly most infuriatingly, is it really supposed to make me feel better that you're giving the money to charity? Now it's like "well, we really didn't need to charge you, since we're not keeping the money anyway, but we are going to go ahead and charge you anyway, since we're dicks, but we'll make you feel like the dick for complaining, since it's going to charity."

3) I truly think that the whole "the youth want instant gratification" argument is false. There is a youtube video of a guy counting to 100,000. The video is 77 hours long. What I'm saying is: the youth are finding ways to do large projects, however inane they are. Maybe they learn to play poker well (which takes a lot of work). Some of them take courses on coursera. Some have built their own iphone apps. Some have played countless hours of angry birds (which actually takes an incredible amount of time to do). Point being -- they are finding things to devote themselves to, not all of which are about instant gratification. And arguing that poker or some of these video games are instantly gratifying is roughly the same as arguing that bridge is -- since you get to win or lose tricks, hands, rubbers, whatever.

I'll stop here since I fear this is turning into a rant...

wyman, on 2012-October-17, 16:53, said:

Wow, that is scandalous. I have never, in the UK or Europe, been charged for leaving my phone out of the playing room.

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What is coursera?

I guess the Bridge Club of Central NJ is too far for you? They are in Bridgewater and have loads of games.

Mhoram, on 2012-October-17, 15:12, said:

My parents played social bridge, but I didn't learn from them. I didn't learn bridge until a few years after I graduated from college and was living away from home. A few years ago my mother decided to take bridge lessons at her country club. She complained to me that she didn't like the transfers that he was teaching them to use -- she couldn't understand bidding things you don't have.

I knew from that that if I ever tried to play with her, neither of us would find it a pleasant experience.

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It won't happen. People who show up with no partner are mostly like you -- they play standard. If someone is insistent on playing unusual things, they will find a compatible partner to play it with them. Most of these players also know how to play standard, even if it's not their regular preference. So if their regular partner is unavailable, and they show up to play with another single, they'll accomodate you.

Vampyr, on 2012-October-17, 18:57, said:

It is quite a trip, especially in rush hour traffic, but they do have games a few nights a week. It is not quite the hour and half+ up to Essex, but you still have to leave an hour and change at rush hour. I also have a sour taste in my mouth (though I later met the owner and he is a nice guy), as I showed up for a published game (after making plans with a friend from out of town and driving the hour and change) that was apparently cancelled. We weren't the only ones who showed up either. I scrambled to find a game that started even later and drove another 40 minutes to show up only a board late to that game, so it all worked out. In any case, keeping a website up to date, for example, would help with such things. Aversion to -- or failure to use, for whatever reason -- technology that the younger generation finds standard is perhaps another reason that kids are unlikely to take up the pastime.

edit: to be fair, bccnj actually has a fine webpage with an updated monthly calendar, and this must have been a one-off type thing. I still stand by comment about clubs in general not having a good enough online presence and about this discouraging young people.

Vampyr, on 2012-October-17, 18:57, said:

As Wyman says, they play at noon M-F and only have an evening game on Thursday. "Loads of" weekday noon games are not helpful to the vast majority of working-age players.
http://bridgecnj.com/

wyman, on 2012-October-17, 16:53, said:

That is weird. I suspect they weren't even thinking very hard, and just decided that 5 seemed like a good round number.

These are all token amounts to me, so I 'm not bothered by it too much. Going to an NABC costs around $200/day for travel expenses + entry fees, what's another $4? And the fact that all the money goes to charity avoids accusations that greed is involved.

barmar, on 2012-October-17, 19:32, said:

What is a token amount to you very well may not be a token amount to everyone else. Classic example of someone of one demographic thinking that the rules are good because they don't bother his friends. Kinda makes the point about ACBL being run by old people for old people.

Someone Wyman's age who lives in New Brunswick probably took the train to Philly and stayed with friends, and therefore probably spent much less that $200/day.

Bbradley62, on 2012-October-17, 19:29, said:

I see. I was mistaken.

And no one is forcing him to use this service. I know plenty of people who give their cellphones to a friend/spouse to hold on to. If I'm staying in the host hotel, I usually leave it in my room. If you drove to the playing site, you can leave it in your car.

barmar, on 2012-October-17, 19:32, said:

When you're a student, you sleep 2-4 in a hotel room that costs -- and I'll say we splurged -- $100 a night. Often times, you got lucky and crashed at someone's grandma's or aunt's house. For the LV NABC, I remember that most of the crew stayed at the Sahara, and that cost like $30/nt. We've played in Cleveland regionals and slept 4 to a room @ like $70/nt.

Entry fees are $20/session, but you get the junior discount that makes it like $10/session at NABCs. Some places you pay like $5-8/sess at regionals. Others students play free.

Say 3 sessions @ 10, and a hotel room for $25-30, though. You can easily do meals for $30/day, often less since you're finding a free (or $2) bagel somewhere for breakfast, going to Chipotle for $8 for lunch, and having dinner at Fridays for like $12. This still leaves you $8 for a couple beers, but you don't need that, since the older guys from your area who know you're dirt poor buy you a beer or two at the bar after the evening session.

You only go to NABCs you can drive to, so you split gas costs -- negligible. And sometimes you're lucky enough to be playing in a Flight B/C "major" event, so you get a little stipend from your district.

Total that up. It's far less than $100 a day. No, I don't think it's reasonable that I have to shell out $4/day to check my phone. Especially not when you have people who are getting PAID to play the game at the table next to you with the cell phone in their jacket pocket.

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I now have a job and do pay closer to what you suggest to go play in tournaments, and yes, $4/day is negligible. But just because it's a small amount doesn't mean that it's right. And if I'm lucky enough to be there for 5 days, seriously I've shelled out $20 to the phone police. I give enough money to charity, and I do so on my own terms. Charging me at the NABC to be one of the upstanding people that doesn't skirt a stupid rule that really doesn't inhibit cheating anyway, and then telling me not to complain because the money is going to charity -- that's insulting.

barmar, on 2012-October-17, 19:49, said:

Young people who have no money don't stay in the host hotel, lol, nor do they pay $30/day to park at the host hotel. So on my short lunch break, now I have to walk 6 blocks to my hotel room, go to lunch -- which is inevitably near the playing site, back to the hotel, and back to the playing site for the afternoon. And do it all again on the dinner break.

It's wildly inconvenient.

edit: nor do they have spouses, nor friends who decided to tag along to spend 4-5 days at a bridge tournament but not play.

Bbradley62, on 2012-October-17, 19:44, said:

I personally probably spent around 200 (but I did take the train), but I also have a real job, whereas some of my teammates during this tournament were still in school. I'm sympathetic to their plight.

Really I'm only on the "poor students" thing because barmar mentioned that $4 was a drop in the bucket. The real reason I'm mad about the cell phone money is because I think it's ludicrous to charge anyone anything for this "service." I don't even think I was charged to check my cell phone the last time I was at a strip club...

edit: errr "gentleman's club"

Same motivation for my reaction... As a much younger man, I took the train from Princeton to the DC NABC and stayed with friends. Did the same 8 months later for the Montreal NABC... and had similar experiences to you sharing rooms many-ways at several others... 1985 and 1991 Las Vegas come to mind... I'm BarMar's age, but I remember when I a "poor student". Hell, sometimes I remember that more clearly than I remember what happened yesterday.

To get somewhat back on track, JB's thread about the deterioration of respect for the rules spawned a discussion about the laws not actually governing club games in practice:

bluejak, on 2012-October-16, 08:10, said:

Bbradley62, on 2012-October-17, 05:51, said:

billw55, on 2012-October-17, 06:23, said:

If we -- for a second -- take this as truth, and if we posit that young people are more interested in playing the game competitively than socially, we might conclude that younger people would be more apt to play tournament bridge than club bridge. One problem then is that traveling to tournaments is cost prohibitive, and another is that one learns the game, ostensibly, by playing in clubs. But if the good tournament players are abandoning clubs (because they are not fun) for tournaments, the younger players will be "learning" from only the fuddy-duddies in an environment not conducive to learning or to having fun.

Bbradley62, on 2012-October-17, 20:26, said:

Yeah my NABC's in school were:

Detroit (I was at Michigan, no hotel)
Las Vegas (I was a winning poker player, so I went for 10 days and splurged, but friends stayed at the Sahara)
Boston (stayed with BunnyGo's parents)
Houston (NAP's -- got stipend from the district which i used for airfare, and also had Marriott points from a summer job so used them for a hotel a half-mile or so from the site)
DC (stayed in friend of friend's apartment on the living room floor [won GNTs though. Maybe I should go back to floor-sleeping...])

so really spent nothing on hotels at NABCs in grad school.

And then I graduated and my next NABC was Louisville and I had a job. Also Louisville had a sane schedule and I was able to work from 8a-12p and play the 1p/7p sessions so I didn't have to use a lot of vacation. But that's a gripe for another post.

wyman, on 2012-October-17, 20:01, said:

What about friends playing in non-NABC+ events? Are they not worth socializing with? On day 2, do you shun anyone who didn't qualify?

barmar, on 2012-October-17, 20:37, said:

My experience has been that we travel as a team and tend to play team events. Rarely have we played pairs. [Also, I am not that good, so my phone is usually only an issue on day 1 of those rare pairs events.]

edit: and no, the bridge players i consort with would pretty much never opt not to play an nabc+ event if they had the option.

You need a GF.

barmar, on 2012-October-17, 20:48, said:

wyman, on 2012-October-17, 20:27, said:

And this is how much of the world has been for at least the past 30 years. When I was playing two club games a week in NJ, the best regulars at those games were generally folks who would place in overalls in Flight B at a Regional. Yes, the Flight A players made some appearances, but very few of them were regulars.